Make Good Decisions

Make Good Decisions


Don’t Make Decisions Based Solely on Emotion

Don’t ever make a decision based on emotion.  As much as you may want to (whether it’s out of anger, excitement, or passion), always think things through logically. It’s the only way to make good decisions and to avoid making bad ones.



Don’t Make Decisions When You Are Angry or Upset

Don’t ever make a decision or do something when you are highly emotional, especially if you are angry or upset.  Wait until you calm down and have put the volatile feelings behind you to make the decision.  Otherwise, you’ll regret it.


“When anger arises, think of the consequences.”


~ Confucius



Use Your Head and Your Heart… But Use Your Head First


When faced with options, try to take a step back and be objective about the situation.  List out all the positive aspects of each choice, and then list all the negative ones of each.  Add them up and figure out which one has more positives and less negatives, and which of those positive and negative aspects is more important to you.

         Let your brain determine the most logical outcome, and then let your heart guide your decision, and in that order.  Too much heart and not enough thought will lead to a rash and emotional decision.  But too much thought and no heart will lead to an unimpassioned choice.

         Use your head first, then your heart.  But make sure that you indeed use both.




Think of the Consequences Before You Act

When faced with a tough decision (like whether you should do something or not, or whether a particular action is right or not), again, try to take a step back and look at the situation objectively.  Think through both choices, and then think through the consequences of each.


Your actions have consequences.

When you choose an action, you are also choosing the potential consequences

that go along with that action. Stop and think things through; make good decisions.

When you choose an action, you also choose the consequences of that action.

So choose wisely.




Make Good Decisions, and Leave No Room For No Regrets

There are two things that you should never have to say in life.

          The first is: “Man, I wish I had done that! What was I thinking...?”

          The second is: “Man, I wish I had never done that!  What was I thinking...?”


  The main message: Don't be afraid to take chances and experience life,

but never do anything that you (or your family) wouldn’t be proud of.







Make Good Decisions – Three Questions to Consider

Deep down, I believe each of us wants to live a moral and honorable life.  Regardless of who we are and what each of us believes in, we are all striving to live life the best way we know how.  We all want to make the most of our opportunities and decisions, and every one of us wants to do what’s best as often as we possibly can.

         We all have hundreds of choices to make on a daily basis: everything from what to say or what not to say—and whether or not to actually say it—to choosing what one should or should not do—and whether or not to actually do it.  It isn’t always easy to determine which choices are the most moral and honorable ones to make.  In this hectic and fast-paced world, figuring out what’s best (and what isn’t) can be a very challenging task.  So, how exactly do we go about determining the best choices to make and the best courses of action to take?

         In any given situation, when faced with a potential decision to make,

there are three simple questions that you should ask yourself:


                 1.  Is it right?

             2.  Is it responsible?

             3.  Is it respectable?


         Keeping these considerations in mind will help you determine whether a decision is a good idea or not, and whether a particular course of action should be pursued or not.  Hopefully, these questions—and your answers to them—will help you navigate your way through the murky waters of everyday morality.

That being said, let’s take a brief closer look at each of the three:


1. Is it right – Is this the right thing to do?  In other words, is what you are about to say or do truthful? Is it honest, is it just, and is it fair?


2. Is it responsible – Is this the responsible thing to do?  In other words, will it have a positive impact on you, on your future, (on your chances for future success, on your character development and on the person that you ultimately will become,) and on the other people who will be affected by it?  Is it keeping in-line with the obligations you have and the commitments you’ve made?


3. Is it respectable – Is this the respectable thing to do?  Will other people respect you for doing it?  Will it increase or decrease the amount of respect that others have for you?  Will it increase or decrease the amount of respect that you have for yourself?   Also, would you want your words, decisions, or actions to be broadcast to the entire world?  If not, then it may be a sign that what you’re thinking about saying or doing isn’t the most respectable choice available.


 ~  Is it right?

 ~  Is it responsible?

 ~  Is it respectable?


         If you can answer “yes” to each and all of these questions, then you can be sure that what you’re thinking of saying is the appropriate and honorable thing to say.  If not, then it probably isn’t… and therefore, you probably shouldn’t say it.

         If you can answer “yes” to each and all of these questions, then you can be sure that what you’re thinking of doing is the appropriate and honorable thing to do.  If not, then it probably isn’t… and therefore, you probably shouldn’t do it.







The 80 Rule ~ A Little Something To Keep In Mind


The average life expectancy in America is about 80 years. (Actually, it’s right around 78, but I’m optimistic.)  In light of that, I have a little something I like to call “The 80 Rule.”  What The 80 Rule says, is that you take the number 80 and subtract from it however many years-old you are right now.  Whatever number you get for an answer, that’s how many years you’ll have to live with the decisions you make today.

         So, for example, if you’re 18: then the equation is 80 – 18 = 62.  That means that whatever you say and do today, you’ll have to live with for 62 years.  That’s a long time.

         The 80 Rule is a great little idea to keep in mind whenever you're faced with a choice.  It should help you realize the importance of thinking things through before you act, and that the decisions you make in the present are going to affect the course of your life for many years to come.  The decisions you make will shape your life forever.

         There is no “reset” button in life. You can’t take anything back, and you can’t undo anything.  All of your actions have consequences, and the things you say and do today will have a lasting impact on the rest of your life.  You have to understand that, and you have to be aware of it while making your decisions.


Life might be short, but it certainly is long enough for you to

have to live with the decisions that you make… for a very long time.


~   The decisions you make shape the path you take. ~





What You Do In the Dark Will Eventually Come To The Light


What you do in the dark will eventually come to the light. The things you do in private somehow have a way of showing up in public. Ultimately, what you do in life will eventually be brought to the light of day.

         Sooner or later, you are going to be exposed for who you really are and for what you’ve really done in life.  If you have done the right things, if you have lived with integrity, and if you have treated others fairly and respectfully, then people are going to find out about it and they are going to respect you for it. If, on the other hand, you have done the wrong things and you have mistreated others, then people are going to find out about that too. 

         What you do in the dark will eventually come to the light.  You may be able to get away with something for a little while, but you can’t hide who you are forever.  Some day, sooner or later, you are going to be exposed.  Better to live a good life and have everyone find out about it in the end, than to take the wrong path and try to get away with it. 

         One way or the other, it will all catch up to you in the end …

because ultimately, what you do in the dark will eventually come to the light. 


The truth always rises to the top.


“Truth will rise above falsehood as oil above water.”


~  Miguel de Cervantes




Always Do The Right Thing … Always.


Being a good person is about always doing the right thing…even if it’s unpopular, even if it’s inconvenient, and even if it costs you.  It’s not always easy to do the right thing. In fact, a lot of times it’s very difficult.  But then again, if it were easy to always do what’s right, then you simply would be expected to do it.  Where’s the distinction in that?

         Anyone can do the right thing when it’s not very hard to do.  What separates people of character from everyone else is that they do the right thing when it’s not very easy to do.  They do what’s right when it’s challenging to do so; they do what’s right when it is seemingly impossible or even impractical to do so as well…

         When it’s going to make you unpopular, when it’s going to cost you, when it’s going to make you stand out from the norm…that’s when you have to stand up for what you believe in and show people what you really are all about.

         Everyone has heard the phrase, “If all your friends jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?”  As simple as it sounds, it also has a very important meaning. What the question really is asking is this: “Are you strong enough to do the right thing, regardless of what other people might think?”

         Anyone can be a follower.  It takes true strength and conviction to always do the right thing…not just when it’s easy, not just when you get something out of it…but also when it costs you…especially when it costs you.

         No matter what anyone else says or does, you always have to do what you believe is right.  People with strong character don’t care about the surrounding opinions or circumstances; all they care about is doing what’s right.




“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”


~  Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.




If You Have to THINK ABOUT Whether or Not

Something is Right… Then It Probably Isn’t.1


You usually know right away when something is the right thing to do. If you have to think about whether or not something is right, then it probably isn’t.  The fact that you have to think about it means that you’re trying to rationalize it or justify it.

         If you ask yourself whether a potential action is the right one to take, and the word ‘yes’ doesn’t immediately jump out at you within the first two or three seconds, then it’s probably not the right thing to do.  Any longer than those first three seconds and you enter into the ‘rationalization’ phase, where you start trying to rationalize why something could be okay to do.

         After three seconds, you’re at that point where you want to do something that your instincts are telling you is wrong, but you’re trying to find a way to make it seem right—you’re trying to fit a particular puzzle piece where it doesn’t belong.    

That’s when you start telling yourself things like, “Well, I guess it would be alright…” Or, “It’s probably okay…” Or “I’m probably going to get away with this…”

         When you honestly ask yourself if something is right, and you don’t have a clear and resounding answer within the first three seconds, then a flashing red light should go off in your head.  It should alert you that something’s up with what you’re thinking about doing.  Something isn’t right.

         Trust your instincts…you usually know right away when something is the right thing to do.  If your instincts don’t tell you that it’s right…then don’t try to fit the square peg into the round hole.  Don’t try to talk yourself into doing something that you can’t immediately say is right.

         If you find yourself trying to rationalize something, that in and of itself should be a warning sign.  If you have to talk yourself into thinking that something is right… then it probably isn’t.  If your gut doesn’t tell you that something is okay… then it’s probably the wrong thing to do. 

         In a situation like that, it is best to leave the thing undone and move on.  Otherwise, you’ll only get yourself into trouble.


If you have to think about whether or not something is right…then it probably isn’t.






Put Yourself in Good Situations


If you put yourself in good situations, it makes it a lot easier to do the

right thing, because you won’t be exposing yourself to temptation.

Make Good Decisions, Put Yourself in Good Situations …

and Good Things Will Happen.

“Virtue is the truest nobility.”


~  Miguel de Cervantes


  R espect all people,  

  E specially women.

  A lways do the right thing.

  L ive a life that matters.







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