What Really Matters


Understand What Really Matters In Life


In order to live a life that really matters, you first must understand what really matters in life.  In other words, you must first realize what life truly is all about.




What Life Is All About  ~



Life is all about being respectful, responsible, and honorable.

Life is all about showing class and having integrity.

Life is all about doing things the right way, all along the way.

Life is all about doing what’s right, standing for what’s right,

and standing up for what’s right.


Life is all about making the most of your talents

and your opportunities in this life.

Life is all about making the biggest contribution that you can

make to the world around you.

Life is all about making the most of your life and your time on this Earth.


Life is all about relationships.

Life is all about how much you can love and be loved;

it is about how much you can allow yourself to love others

and to be loved by others in return.

Life is all about what you can do for others.

Life is all about the contribution you make during the course of your lifetime.


Life is all not only about your own personal success, but more importantly,

it is about your personal significance to others: it is about having an impact on other people and being a positive presence in this world.

Life is all not only about your own personal accomplishments and reaching your own full potential, but more importantly, it is about doing all you can to help others reach their full potential and make the most of their lives as well.


Life is all about having an impact and leaving a positive legacy.








How Much Do You Bench? …

And How Much Does It Matter?


How much do you bench?” That might be the one question that guys and young men hear more than anything else.  We hear it at the gym, at school, at practice, and pretty much everywhere else.  It’s like all the men in the world got together and decided that the bench press is now the official measure of a man. 

         Apparently, if you can bench more than the next guy, that makes you a more important person.  And if not, then apparently that makes you less important…or at least that’s what society tells us.

         I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be concerned with your personal fitness or physical appearance.  What I am saying, is that you should be more concerned with the things that are truly important in life.  There are so many unimportant questions out there that we constantly ask ourselves and one another, that we tend to lose sight of what really matters in our lives…and of the questions that we should really be asking—questions like:


Who are you?

What do you stand for?

What won’t you stand for?

Who’s important to you in your life? 

How often do you tell those people

      that you love and appreciate them?

Do you live by your principles?

Do you treat people with respect?

Do you earn the respect and trust of others?


These are the types of questions we should be asking ourselves. 

These are the things we should be focusing on more than how much

we can bench or how much we can squat.


So, how much do you bench?

Who cares: How much do you do for others?

Are you comfortable in that extra-small muscle shirt?

Who cares: Are you comfortable with who you are

and with the way you’re living your life?









A Roadmap For Your Life


It is always important to have a roadmap for your life—some idea of where you are trying to go, and of what you are trying to accomplish during your time in this world. Every now and then, it’s good to do a quick self-assessment to make sure you’re on the right track and that you’re headed in the right direction.  Below are a few simple questions worth keeping in mind as you go through life-they are the who, what, where, why, and how that we should all try to answer:


Who ~

Who are you, and who are you trying to become?



What do you want to accomplish with your life, and are you making the most

of the talents and opportunities given to you?


Where  ~ 

Where are you going in life?... Where is that final destination—that future vision of yourself—that you are working toward?



Why are you here?… Why were you put on this earth, and how will you carry out your life’s purpose?


How  ~ 

How do you want to be remembered? ... Are you living in such a way

that your legacy will be what you want it to be?



~ I can pose all these questions to you, but I can’t answer any of them for you.  That part is up to you…and you can only do it by living out your answers through the decisions that you make and through the actions that you take.



~  Choose Well and Live Well  ~













Where Is Your Applause Going to Come From?


At the end of your life, you’re going to get a round of applause. The major distinction, however, is not going to be how loud that applause is, how long it lasts for, or even how many people there are clapping.  Instead, the major distinction is going to be where that applause comes from.

        You see, when it’s all said and done, your applause is going to come from one of two places: it’s either going to come from all the people who are still here in this world, who are happy to see you go because you were a bad person or because they didn’t like or respect you … OR, it's going to come from all the people in Heaven, who are applauding you because you lived a good life—an honorable life—and who are happy because they’re getting a good one to join them up there.

        In the end, it’s totally up to you to decide where your applause is going to come from. Fortunately, and ultimately, it all depends on the way that you live your life.


So ... I ask you this … Where is your applause going to come from?




  R espect all people,  

  E specially women.

  A lways do the right thing.

  L ive a life that matters.







© Copyright ~ Frank DiCocco ~ 2010






Success Is Measured


By What You Do


For Others.

    Be  a  REAL  Man!

“When we leave this world,

how much we have loved will be our true legacy.

It is the only thing we will leave behind and carry with us.”


~   Anne Siloy


 ~ David Bancroft Johnson

“Success in life has nothing to do with what you gain or accomplish for yourself It's what you do for others.”


~ Danny Thomas